family, Social Issues

Lowering standards and changing the rules

The war of language continues. I wrote a somewhat ranty blog discussing the many problems I see with coercing one to take an experimental drug. In this blog, I quoted the definition of the word vaccine, as written by the CDC. I wrote this on August 14th, and pulled the definition with a link to it the same day. This is the definition nurses and doctors were taught during their training.

You can read it here if you’re curious: “Is this about antibodies or compliance?”

Doug also made a podcast about this blog if you would rather listen:

On August 14th, 2021, the CDC defined a vaccine as, “Vaccine: A product that stimulates a person’s immune system to produce immunity to a specific disease, protecting the person from that disease. Vaccines are usually administered through needle injections, but can also be administered by mouth or sprayed into the nose.”

Did you catch that? A vaccine is used to PRODUCE IMMUNITY. At least, that is how it used to be defined.

If you click the CDC link in my blog, or look it up for yourself, you will see they have quietly changed their definition of vaccine. It now says, “Vaccine: A preparation that is used to stimulate the body’s immune response against diseases. Vaccines are usually administered through needle injections, but some can be administered by mouth or sprayed into the nose.”

No longer are vaccines supposed to help us achieve immunity. They now only need to stimulate an immune response. There is a difference here that matters in a big way. Vaccines have been redefined, quietly, and the new definition has lower standards to ensure this new technology can be called a vaccine. The people were becoming too smart, and waking up to the fact they were being lied to. They resorted to doing what they so commonly do, they changed the rules to fit their narrative.

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Is this about antibodies or compliance?

My skepticism began after the “2 weeks to flatten the curve” turned into preventing anyone from ever getting sick or dying again. Here is a tiny sampling on one narrow topic of why I, an educated person with a bachelor’s degree in nursing, and over 20 years in healthcare, don’t buy into the rhetoric.

Me: We no longer recognize passive immunity, which is when a person develops immunity by becoming infected, then recovering from something.

Them: Oh, no, no. Immunity received the old fashioned way doesn’t last as long as the vaccine.

Me: Wait, why are we still calling it a vaccine anyway? According to the CDC, (please note the use of the word immunity)

“Vaccine: A product that stimulates a person’s immune system to produce immunity to a specific disease, protecting the person from that disease. Vaccines are usually administered through needle injections, but can also be administered by mouth or sprayed into the nose.”

Them: It’s not going to be mandatory, conspiracy theorist!

Them: That’s not mandatory. You DO have a choice, you can find a different job.

Me: That’s not really a choice though, here is the definition of coercion.

"The intimidation of a victim to compel the individual to do some act against his or her will by the use of psychological pressure, physical force, or threats."

Them: Well, the only way to ‘End Covid’ is for everyone to get immunity from the shot.

Me: That’s just one incident.

Me: I can see where this is going, soon we will have to have papers to go places. (them: conspiracy theorist!)

Them: But, the variants!!!

Me: Yes, viruses mutate, and always have. Each new variant will have it’s moment in the spotlight, with more prevalence. That’s how and why they mutate. There will be more…

Them: The delta variant is killing people!

Me: Yes, no doubt, but so have other variants. For perspective look here and play with the data.

Everyone: Hospitalizations are going up!

Me: With people delaying having medical concerns addressed, and avoiding routine medical care last year, combined with Covid, yes, hospitals are super full. Did you know this happens every flu season, and news outlets and the public never cared before? I actually wrote an an entire blog on this point. Except in 2020 there was NO flu season. 😏

Everyone: But there are no beds!

Me: Some places are having to transfer patients, reduce elective surgeries, and frantically search for staff to hire. Some places have beds, but no staff to open the bed.

Them: I see. Let’s fire healthcare workers for not taking the shot.

Them: The shot protects people against getting it and they won’t spread it.

Them: If we all get antibodies and immunity, it will go away!

(Please scroll to top and repeat)

Them: All of you people should just die then. We have ideas to help. Also, we call kids we don’t agree with names. (Photo is the comment of a teacher in our school district and supporters)

These people should not be anywhere near children. But they are, and this is only one reason to pull your children from public schools. See our archives for more on this topic.

Is this about antibodies or compliance?

Christianity, family

Standing for what is right – for our children

I have become more vocal, it is true. Some people have gone away because they were in my life for a season, or even the wrong reasons. By not hiding who I am or what I think, I have watched some amazing and genuine people come into my circle. I am learning so many things. I have had hard lessons during my life, and one of the important ones is that I can’t worry so much about what other people think of me. That is easier said than done, and I still struggle with this.

When I became a mom after dealing with over 6 years of infertility, I knew I would do anything to protect the life growing inside of me. It was scary. I wanted to eat the right things, do the right things, avoid the wrong things. I didn’t know it then, how much easier it was to protect them before they were born.

Now, when I look at my girls, I know how much more difficult it is to make sure they are going down the right paths. And I know there will be times when they won’t. They are growing up in a world filled with masked faces, conflict, deception, weakness, and uncertain futures. I know this is nothing new, but it is more pungent to me now that I am a mama. There are times I worry about what kind of world we brought them into. But I know that God loves them even more than I do, and that’s saying a lot. He gave them to me, in this moment, on purpose. I cherish my family and will stand up for them.

Reminders of how quickly my girls are growing surround me every day. Their littleness is precious and fleeting. When I hear them talking to each other in the next room and they start giggling together, it fills me with warmth. There are so many emotions, it is hard to describe them all. When I have to discard the next size of clothes as they grow. When I hear them crying in genuine pain or sadness. When I hear, “Mommy!” on repeat – 87 times in a row. When I clean sticky handprints off of windows, or fish petrified chicken nuggets from deep under the bookshelf. When I scrub popsicle and grass stains out of tiny clothes on a summer day. When I calm them down from a case of being too hungry or too tired. When I scrub paint off counters and pick stickers off of walls. When we sing “Twinkle, twinkle” for the billionth time that day. Every job that I do to serve my family, no matter how big or small or tedious or mundane it feels in the moment, is worth it. Someday I will suddenly notice how long it has been since they asked to me kiss a booboo and make it instantly all better. I will ask them if they want me to the next time they get hurt, and they will tell me no. I will realize that I didn’t even know when the last time was the last time. Things will be more complicated to “fix” as they grow. I know there are much more difficult times coming.

Fighting for the world our girls will grow up in is near the top of that list of jobs. I’m not going to stop talking about things that matter to us as a family. I’m not going to stop trying to make changes where I can, even if it feels like I’m fighting a losing battle. I want them to see an example that truth is important, no matter how unpopular it is. I want them to know that they watched their parents stand for what was right, even if it was the more difficult, and sometimes lonely road to take.

These two beautiful girls are why I won’t stop.  They are gifts to me, they are our future.


Wisdom is better than folly

I was thinking about the word “wisdom” a few days ago and decided to look up some scriptures that discuss the topic.  Lately, it seems wisdom is something that is absent from much of society.  My search took me to Ecclesiastes, chapter 8.  I wanted to go through a few verses that stood out to me.

Wisdom Better Than Folly

Again I saw that under the sun the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, nor bread to the wise, not riches to the intelligent, nor favor to those with knowledge, but time and chance happen to them all.

Ecclesiastes 8:11

We are all in a race of sorts.  The path is different for each one of us, but the end goal is the same.  To glorify Jesus in our works, make our way to heaven, and bring as many others with us as possible.  While it is true we should strive to do a good job when we take on a task, we must never forget that obedience is the important part over beating others out.  Sometimes “winning” is lifting others up on our shoulders intead.

Even the most swift, the strongest, the wisest, the smartest are not guaranteed a higher reward than the others.  Sin and circumstance can happen to anyone.  We are rewarded for obedience and spreading God’s word here on Earth.

But I saw that wisdom is better than might, though the poor man’s wisdom is despised and his words are not heard. 

Ecclesiastes 8:16

Do you see this happening now?  When I look around, the regular, everyday people are being silenced and the wealthy voices are booming.  Small businesses are dying.  Conservatives are being canceled.  Anyone who speaks out against the narrative is ignored, and labeled a conspiracy theorist, bigot, racist, and any number of other derogatory terms.  Black people speaking out against the multi-million dollar corporation Black Lives Matter are called sell-outs, not really black, and so on. 

The ‘poor man’ should remain quiet and not disrupt the information peddling of the wealthy.  Sound like anything going on around you right now?

The words of the wise heard in quiet are better than the shouting of a ruler among fools.  Wisdom is better than weapons of war, but one sinner destroys much good.

Ecclesiastes 8:17-18

The most difficult to hear voices are often the ones most worth listening to.  It is easy for us to get lost in the noise.  That is why it is more important than ever to speak boldly about our faith, and not be pushed down and silenced. 

A battle with weapons that is being fought by foolish men is a battle that is sure to be lost.  Wisdom is necessary in every aspect of life.  Strategy, education and calm persistence are weapons of wisdom that Christians should have in their arsenal. 

It takes many of us to stand together to form a strong force for Christianity.  Yet one screaming tyrant can destroy many good works.  Have you ever heard the phrase, “The squeaky wheel gets the grease?”  This happens time and time again, yet we as Christians still try to remain meek, inconspicuous and inoffensive. 

A wise man’s heart inclines him to the right, but a fool’s heart to the left.

Ecclesiastes 10:2

I’m sure the irony of this verse will not be lost to you.

If the anger of the ruler rises against you, do not leave you place, for calmness will lay great offenses to rest.

Ecclesiastes 10:4

Considering our rulers are angry, this holds much meaning today.  Do not be afraid and silenced into submission.  If we remain calm yet unrelenting in our push for truth, we can change the course of our country.  Standing for what we believe in will remain a growing priority.  For now, speaking out only causes social discomfort and cancelation.  How long will we sit in silence?  Until the cost is far greater to regain the ground we have lost?

The words of a wise man’s mouth win him favor, but the lips of a fool consume him.

Ecclesiastes 10:12

In today’s climate, wise words seem to be frowned upon instead of favored.  Our culture pushes acceptance and support of even sinful things over truth in love.  Feelings over truth.  The Bible says though, that wise words win favor, and those who speak foolishly will be consumed.  In our era of instant gratification and aversion to suffering, this is a difficult test of patience.  We can take comfort in the fact that the Bible assures us we will be rewarded for being wise.

As Christians, we don’t want to offend with our words.  We are told not to say or do things that will push people away from a relationship with Jesus.  While I agree with that to an extent, luring people into a false relationship with gentle lies, or lies by omission does not earn the new believer a relationship with the Lord.  Once the truth comes out, (and it always will) they will see through the lies and think us hypocrites.  I have been there myself. 

Bringing people into Christianity with truth – and in love is the only way to foster a lasting relationship with Christianity, and ultimately with God.

The final scripture I wanted to share today is:

Bread is made for laughter,

and wine gladdens life,

and money answers everything.

Ecclesiastes 10:19

This verse made me smile until I got to the part about money.  Money answers everything?  It means that money can have influence, and bend situations to our will.  Money is the earthly currency that speaks volumes.

How can we as Christians put our money to good use?  Tithing, supporting Christian businesses, and donating to Christian charities are all excellent ways to have our money work for God.  If you find a political candidate that you support who is a true Christian, and you have the means to donate to a campaign, give it a try.  I didn’t realize until this year how much money it takes to run for an office.  

Altering the course of our nation will take time, effort, and a huge amount of patience.  The left has been patiently organizing, and planting seeds of propaganda for decades.  Our schools and our government have been drifting faithfully left while we Christians have been sleeping right through our Church Age.

Should Christians reinsert ourselves into the school systems?  Political offices?  Public forums?  Yes to all of these, and more.  We are not called to be silent observers as the world burns all around us.  We are called to be steadfast, truthful and loving.  Until we bring God back into society, darkness will always be pressing in to fill the absence left behind.

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Waiting for answers about Covid and the new vaccines. Keep it voluntary.

It has been a year since I first heard stories about the new virus coming to get us all.  The panic spread quickly, people gripped by fear.  Fear, I now know, is a powerful tool.  It is easy to scare people, but very difficult to unscare them.

No good news

The few voices that came forward with messages of reason and hope were quickly squashed.  For example, there appeared to be a glimmer of good news because hydroxychloroquine was thought to be a good medication to help treat Covid if it is given early enough.  That idea was quickly blocked without taking the time to look into it any further. There is still debate among providers about this. Any ray of hope from our then-president was called a lie.  Any doctors who brought forth anything that went against the fear pushing objective were quickly discredited.

Another piece of good news should be how Covid killed the seasonal flu, right? In the image below, taken directly from the CDC website, you can see all of the colored lines that represent past flu seasons compared to this flu season, with the red triangles. Interesting we are not hearing more about this, and how or if it relates to the rise in Covid.

To those of you attributing this data to the fact people are doing an amazing job of wearing their masks and social distancing, spare me. I have already seen this argument. These are the same people who are screaming to the world that every time a person tests positive for Covid, it’s because “Nobody knows how to mask, socially distance or follow rules!” You can’t have it both ways.

Covid deaths are not always from Covid

There are states which count a death as a Covid death if they had a positive test, no matter how they died. I understand the impact comorbidities have on illnesses. However, there are cases in which the person died of a clear, alternative cause, and the person was counted as a Covid death.

“If you were in hospice and had already been given a few weeks to live, and then you also were found to have COVID, that would be counted as a COVID death. It means technically even if you died of a clear alternate cause, but you had COVID at the same time, it’s still listed as a COVID death. So, everyone who’s listed as a COVID death doesn’t mean that that was the cause of the death, but they had COVID at the time of the death.” Dr. Ezike outlined.

I point this out because I want people to understand that we need time and answers. Time to know the actual survival rates. Which appear to be very high. (More good news not being touted.) And time to know how safe and effective a new vaccine is. Knowing these pieces of information will help people to make an educated decision on taking the shot or declining.

They are safe and effective… Trust us…

Yesterday, I read an article discussing how the new Covid vaccines are as safe as they thought they would be. This article discussed how, “everyone who experienced an allergic response has been treated successfully.” And, “no other serious problems have turned up among the first 22 million people vaccinated, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.”

I work away from direct patient care now, and have for 2 years. I have a small team, and they are offering the vaccine to us. A few of my colleagues have excitedly and dutifully opted to take it. This week, 2 members of my team received the second dose. At our meeting a few days ago, one person said she was behind this week because a few days after she received the second dose, her arm, axilla and shoulder were very swollen and red. She couldn’t even apply deodorant for 3 days. She spiked a 103 degree fever that lasted over 24 hours, and her headache made her feel like she was going to throw up if she sneezed, coughed or bent over. Once she was finished talking, the other person quietly said she had the same types of things happen. They both hesitantly agreed, “but, it’s worth it.”

…Is it though? Who determines that? I do. No one else determines risk versus reward for me or my family except us. It is the same with any other medical treatment. I recently had my gallbladder removed. Among the risks of surgery are death. When they ask for my informed consent, they explained the statistics of each possible complication, and I had to decide for myself if I was willing to take that risk. That is as it should be for any medical procedure or treatment. And, until recently, was the standard to which we in the medical field were all trained.

If you continue through the article, you will see,

“Vaccinated people have suffered major health crises and even death within a few days of receiving a shot, but the rate of those events is no higher than would be expected in the general population and cannot be connected to the vaccine, the review found.”

USA Today

Whenever anyone else has suggested to look at Covid related deaths in such a manner, they are called anti-science, and any number of other derogatory terms. If we measured vaccine related deaths in the same ‘scientific’ way we measured Covid related deaths, why wouldn’t we, for example, call all deaths in the 30 days after a Covid shot – a Covid shot death?

Double standards. The narrative. Fear peddling. That’s why.

“Shimabukuro did not address the several people reported to have died after receiving a vaccine, including a Florida doctor and a California X-ray technologist.”

USA Today

These are only the ones made public at this moment. Nothing to see here. Everything is just fine.


I realize I probably sound like an anti-vaxxer. That’s far from truth. I and my family are all vaccinated for the typical childhood things. I also take the flu shot every year after having the flu so badly one year, I thought I would literally die. I am also very much in favor of medical choice and informed consent. Over the years, I have educated many people on vaccines, but always respected their decision to go whichever way they felt was right. I have never in my career witnessed so much guilt, shaming and peer pressure to have a medical treatment as I have seen with this experimental shot.

We are reassured things are safe and effective. But, we are barely coming upon a year of Covid vaccines, and a small trial phase. Clearly my definitions of ‘safe’ and ‘effective’ differ from other’s definitions. As do my definitions of ‘hate,’ ‘love,’ ‘truth,’ and many other vocabulary words. But that’s for another time.

mRNA vaccines are not a new idea

Did you know that the technology for the new mRNA vaccines has been around for decades? I didn’t either. “mRNA vaccines have been studied before for flu, Zika, rabies, and cytomegalovirus (CMV).” Yet, despite the length of their existence, and the purported ease of creating new vaccines, one still has not been approved by the FDA. Why is that?

The answer is we don’t know. There are so many things we don’t know. I pray this vaccine is the next good thing in medical technology. I really do. But, until we answer more questions, the answer will remain a “No thanks” for myself and my family. This experimental shot should remain a choice, and not a mandatory medical procedure.

Christianity, Politics, Social Issues

Abuse? Gaslighting? Both! Male and female should be celebrated

It came as a surprise to me that Pelosi decided to remove gender related terms from the house.  It is now forbidden to use terms as mother, father, uncle, daughter in law, or anything else that hints at what gender someone might be. 

This is complete insanity, and feels evil. God created us, his precious children, as male and as female.  There are numerous references in the Bible to this point.  Here is just one:

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”

Genesis 1:27

Masculinity and femininity are beautiful, different, and should be celebrated!  It is so wonderful to be feminine.  I love the differences in the way I look, and in the things my body can do, like giving birth and feeding a baby. I like the way I think about things and respond to situations. I enjoy when a man holds a door for me, or pulls my chair out for me, and I can thank him for being a gentleman. I like to nurture my family and take care of my husband. The list goes on and on.

I desire and crave masculinity to balance me.  It is wildly attractive to me.  I sought that sort of personality in my past, and ended up in abusive relationships.  Two of them.  It is embarrassing to admit I fell for it twice, but there it is.  Masculinity does not automatically equal abusive though.  The two major differences between my past, and my husband are character, and being a Christian.

I now have found a protective, strong, Godly, intelligent, wise, and masculine husband.  I look around at people now, and wonder how my two young girls will ever find such a husband for themselves among all the genderless, wimpy, social justice warrior, pronoun choosing, fluid people.  My husband and I already pray for those little boys, who are probably already born somewhere, that our girls will grow up to marry.  We pray for their upbringing, and for their parents.

There are so many things I cannot do as a woman that my husband helps me with.  There are also many things that my husband cannot do without my help.  We are two parts of a whole.  We are helpers to one another.  We are a team.  We are one. 

Speaking of my past relationship leads me to remember how mentally abusive it was, and it was forging ahead to becoming physical abuse.  This was evident to me when he had begun throwing items at me in anger.  This will be a blog for another time, but I wanted to point out that the way the “left” is treating the “right,” the way Democrats are treating Republicans, the way Liberals are treating Conservatives feels exactly like an emotionally abusive relationship.  I have been telling my husband this for some time, and I consider myself an expert on that topic.

Take a look at this graphic. Do you see any connections that can be made to our current social climate? Of course, there will be differences because this wheel is about relationships. But there are many parallels I can draw at a glance.

We are being gaslighted, repeatedly. If you aren’t sure what ‘gaslighting’ is, I would encourage you to look it up.  I will link an article here if you are interested. 

What is Gaslighting?

It is so important we remember that God created us, with ALL of our differences, because we need one another. We are beautifully made, each individual one of us.  Some are male and some are female.  Any attempt to cancel that fact is abusive and goes against God.

Christianity, podcast, Politics, Social Issues

Double standards are no longer surprising

The Red House in Portland. If you have not heard of it – I would urge you to look it up and take a few moments to read about this situation.

What if you or I decided we didn’t want to pay our bills, and when eviction came, we put up barriers, closing off streets, recruited armed guards to set up booby traps for anyone who dates to enter our zone, and demanded to negotiate with officials?

Would we be viewed as innocent victims who are in need of help? As people who should be negotiated with at all?

We would be rooted out, arrested, evicted, and punished. That is what would and should happen. But not to ‘some’ people with the correct ideology who use all of the best buzzwords in the right city. They get to endanger their neighborhoods, the police and threaten other civilians. They expressed intent to cause harm to people who are not welcomed.

This just one example, out of SO many, of the double standards that are based on which side you belong to politically. Doug’s latest podcast talks about this. You can listen to it here:

… and justice for all
Social Issues

Another round of lockdowns, we knew this was coming

I wrote the post below on social media on October 31st, 2020. I want to move it here before I either get deleted or deactivate my Facebook account. I was wrong about one thing. Not only are they using high capacy times to push fear, they just used it to force Oregon into a “freeze.” Can we just call it what it is and stop trying to use gentler words? We are not stupid. It is another lockdown. I fully expect my state of Washington to do this also since our governor just told us it is dangerous to go to other houses. And to have virtual Thanksgiving instead.

Remember: We get busy to overflowing in hospitals every year. You can read more below.

Facebook post:

I am an RN, and I have worked for the surgery department in different capacities for most of my life. 2 years ago I stopped working in direct patient care, and I now work entirely from home. Remotely. 100% of the time. Every year we can choose to get the flu shot … or we must mask (with medical masks, not cloth “face coverings”) for the flu season to protect our patients. This year, for the first time, they changed our policy, and we have to get the flu shot or we will not be scheduled. In other words, it is mandatory.

Even for my team and others like me who never step foot into a medical building. It is mandatory. They aren’t protecting patients from us because we we don’t go near patients. So then, why? When I asked this at an open forum held by our facility on a conference call, I was told that we can’t overload the hospitals with flu patients so we can have room for covid ones.

I will say that every year, the flu (and other reasons listed below) fill hospitals so full that most go off and on divert as the season rolls on. So they know that by saying this, they can make healthcare workers feel guilty for choosing not to get the shot. Nurses and most healthcare workers, by nature, care about others to a fault sometimes. That is a super smart way to take away another choice. I, and my family, do get the flu shot, but I support the choice of others not to.

Then, I started thinking about the headlines that will come out about hospital capacity soon. Because every year, even before all this, the same routine happens. We fill up! Every year. Hospitalizations go up, they go down, back up… and on and on.

The public almost never hears about these full capacity, no beds, divert status times because it is a normal yearly occurrence, and we have ways of shuffling people so everyone gets care. Every year behind the scenes we are scrambling for staff because the staff gets sick, there are no more physical beds, there are not enough people to staff all the beds, everyone is trying to get elective surgeries done before the end of the year insurance coverages are reset, more hospitalized hip fracture patients in the winter, acuity is higher, etc. Healthcare workers work extra shifts, long hours, and sometimes are asked to sleep at the hospital when a bad snow/ice storm is expected to hit. Yes, sometimes we even get so full that patients must receive their care in a bed in the hallway until a room opens up. But they are being cared for. This is nothing new, and it won’t be new when it happens this year. Nobody in the public really cared before. That’s okay! They shouldn’t worry because we know how to work around all of that. This is what we do!

I bet this year though, it will be headline news. Trust me, it’s coming. Hospitals fill to capacity in fall and winter. Every single year. Staffing is short – every single year. We have a few months of chaos… every single year. We run out of different supplies here and there, every single year. Nurses and healthcare workers also get sick, every single year. We have “surges” of illness, every single year. Patients are transferred to other places because of a bed shortage, every single year. So keep that in mind when the headlines start rolling out as the normal busy season kicks in. When headlines start coming out that are carefully crafted to make you feel fear, keep this in mind. Could it be worse than normal? Sure, it could be, it’s hard to tell yet. Be encouraged though that hospitals juggle and work through this craziness every year.

End post

Today my prayer is that we search out our own wisdom from reliable sources. Such as your local health department and hospital sites. We stop accepting mainstream media and social media as our sources of truth. I pray that we disobey these unlawful lockdowns. Do not be afraid to live your life wisely. I pray we protect the vulnerable by allowing them to stay home and help provide for them where needed. We should make our own choices about whether or not to stay home and what precautions to take. We should not participate in blind obedience just because we were told to. I’m praying for health and peace for each one of us.

I keep hearing how as Christians, we should obey authority. And I do agree to a point. What I don’t agree with is who the authority is in the USA. Our country was founded with our Constitution above any human held position. That document and We the People are the authorities. Not our mayors, not our governors, and not our president. There are just too many conflicting authorities to know who to obey. But that is a topic for another time. Soon.

I will leave you with this:

For God did not give us a spirit of fear. But of power, love, and a sound mind.

2 Timothy 1:7

Social media has changed the way we communicate – and not for the better

I admit it, I’m a social media fan! But, over the years I can see how it has impacted us as humans in the way we communicate with one another. We all know that being online gives people a certain feeling of anonymity and bravery that they wouldn’t necessarily have if they were talking in person. We have lost the eye contact, the body language, the empathy-generating silent communication that goes on while we are sitting across a table listening to one another.

Now, we just lob posts constructed as essays back and forth at one another. Don’t get me wrong, there is a place for that (especially for those of us who love to write!), but it has turned into our main form of communication now. We aren’t listening to one another with the intent to empathize, grow, or even change our minds. Our entire focus has become how to stand high on our soapboxes and prove over and over how we are right and the other person is wrong.

My own family is made up of people with vastly differing political views. I admire the way some of them can type about difficult subjects on Facebook and debate endlessly. Usually without getting their emotions involved. I am not as good at that. I don’t enjoy conflict and debate. I enjoy in person, deep discussion with real and open people. I know of families who don’t speak to members anymore over political views.

Social media has also become the Ultimate Dividers of Truth and Untruth. What? I use social media for entertainment and to share things with my friends and family. Not to discover truth. I have never been one to take something as truth just because it is on the internet, and that is true now more than ever. I am jumping on the bandwagon to use Facebook less, and explore other social media sites. Eventually it’s possible Facebook will to away entirely for me.

A few things I think we forget, WE control social media. Social media doesn’t control us. I am the consumer, not the consumed. The other, and most important thing, is that the one and only source of truth is the Bible. Not Facebook fact-checkers, no matter how badly they want to be our thought police.